How Divorce Impacts Children in Scottsdale

Divorce can be difficult for everyone involved – especially children who may have a limited understanding of what’s happening and what the divorce will mean for them in the future.

To enhance parents’ awareness of this aspect of their divorce, below we have shared some insight regarding how their divorce can impact children, followed by tips on how to help kids deal with the impacts of divorce.

How Divorce can Affect Children

The impacts that a divorce will have on the involved children will depend on a number of factors, only some of which include:

  • The age of the children when their parents are divorcing
  • The contention or fighting associated with the divorce
  • Whether domestic violence may be an issue
  • What the parents do to help children cope.

In general, however, some of the most common effects that divorce can have children include (but are by no means limited to) the following:

Engendering feelings of abandonment, which can stem (for instance) from one parent moving out

  • Taking on more responsibilities at home, like taking care of younger siblings and/or more household duties
  • Acting out more outside of the home, which can result in more aggression and/or falling grades at school (for example)
  • Developing depression, anxiety or other mood disorders.

It’s crucial to note that, while divorce can have some negative impacts on children:

  • It can also have positive effects – In fact, children can feel a sense of relief when their parents separate, especially if the parents were fighting a lot prior to the divorce. Similarly, kids can become more adaptable and tolerant after divorce, particularly if they see their parents thriving in life after divorce.
  • There are various things parents can do to limit the negative impacts that their divorce may have on their kids.
How to Help Children Cope With Divorce

If you are a parent going through divorce, here are some of the most effective things you can do to help you child(ren) deal with the changes1:

  • Keep a consistent routine – In other words, try to make sure their daily lives are minimally disrupted and that they have a routine they can rely on and predict.
  • Stay positive – Avoid badmouthing the other parent, fighting with the other parent in front of the children, and/or talking about the stresses of divorce (like financial stresses) in front of the children.
  • Answer questions honestly – Give children the information they need to understand what’s going on, and be sure to reinforce the fact that the divorce is about the parents relationship with each other (and that it doesn’t impact either parent’s love for the children).
  • Take care of yourself – If children see their divorcing parents doing well during and after divorce, they are more likely to remain positive and see the divorce as a step forward. This can help them cope with any residual negative impacts they may be dealing with.
Contact the Scottsdale Divorce Attorneys at the Law Office of Karen A. Schoenau

When you need exceptional representation in an Arizona divorce, it’s time to contact the seasoned Scottsdale divorce attorneys at the Law Office of Karen A. Schoenau. Experienced, dedicated and trusted, our family lawyers have been helping people resolve their important legal issues, including complex cases related to divorce and child custody issues, since 1987.

To receive professional advice and learn more about how we can help you, schedule an initial consultation with one of our lawyers today. You can set up this meeting by calling 480-209-1918 or by emailing us via the contact form on this page.

From offices based in Scottsdale, our firm represents clients throughout the metropolitan Scottsdale area, including in Scottsdale, Mesa, Surprise, Maricopa County, Pinal County, Gila County and throughout the state of Arizona.

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