Is Divorce More Difficult for Men or Women?

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A Scottsdale divorce attorney discusses some findings regarding the impacts of divorce on men versus women.

Divorce can be a challenge for anyone. Over recent years, however, some researchers have focused on answering the above question, based on analyzing the financial, physical and emotional impacts that divorce can have on men versus women.

And here are some of the more notable findings.

Some say Men…

According to a study published by Huffington Post,1 divorce is more difficult for men because it can:

  • Challenge their sense of identity , particularly when men have based a major part of their identity on being a husband and/or breadwinner for their family
  • Cause them to bottle up grief , and this can result in depression – In fact, according to this study, men are far more likely than women to engage in risky and destructive behaviors following divorce, especially if they are not sure how to deal with the grief resulting from the end of their marriage.
  • Impact their relationship with their children , which can, in turn, challenge their paternal instincts and complicate their ability to maintain a healthy connection with their children.
Others say Women…

Challenging the above conclusions, a study published in Women’s Health Magazine2 uncovered some other findings, suggesting that divorce may be more difficult for women. In fact, according to this study, divorce can be more difficult for women because it can:

  • Cause them to experience significant financial hardship , as women tend to be less likely to financially plan for the impacts of divorce – In fact, researchers have reported that the average woman will experience a 45 percent drop in her quality of life following divorce.
  • Have lingering mental effects , which can result in physical illness even up to 10 years following the divorce
  • Increase their risk of a heart attack , with this risk increasing as women go through more divorces – In fact, while a woman who has been through one divorce will generally have a 24 percent elevated risk of a heart attack (when compared to non-divorced women), this risk can more than triple when women have been through two, three or more divorces.
The Bottom Line

Although the jury is clearly out on whether divorce is more difficult for men or women, the real takeaway here may be that divorce can be very hard for everyone – not just when the process is happening but also possibly in the years following the case.

By retaining an experienced divorce lawyer, however, both men and women can reduce the challenges they face in divorce, helping them get through the process as favorably and efficiently as possible.

Contact a Scottsdale Divorce Attorney at the Law Office of Karen A. Schoenau

For experienced, effective representation in an Arizona divorce, contact Scottsdale Divorce Attorney Karen Schoenau. Since 1987, Karen Schoenau has been committed to helping people resolve their important family law matters, including complex cases related to divorce, custody, paternity and other issues.

To receive professional advice and learn more about how we can help you, schedule an initial consultation with Attorney Karen Schoenau. You can set up this meeting by calling 480-209-1918or by emailing us using the drop-down contact form at the top of this page.

From her offices based on Scottsdale, Attorney Karen Schoenau represents clients throughout the metropolitan Scottsdale area, including in Scottsdale, Mesa, Surprise, Maricopa County, Pinal County, Gila County and throughout the state of Arizona.


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