Life After Divorce: 6 Tips for Thriving After Divorce

After a divorce is finalized, it can be difficult to know how to get on with life and what to expect moving forward. After all, facing the unknown can be as challenging as starting to restore your life on your own.

To help you navigate these uncertainties, here are some of the most effective things you can do to empower yourself and thrive in life after divorce.

How to Thrive Following Divorce
  1. Focus on remaining healthy – If you don’t feel good physically, it can be very difficult to get into a good emotional state. So avoid unhealthy habits and concentrate on being as healthy as possible. Try to eat healthfully and remain active. Being in shape can be a huge confidence builder in your life after divorce.
    • Tip: Join a gym or take up a new exercise class so that you are regularly exercising.

  2. Don’t be afraid to mourn or seek some emotional support – While it’s important to take care of your physical wellbeing after divorce, it’s also essential to look after your emotional wellbeing. So, if you start to get down about the end of your marriage, recognize and accept the feelings, and find the right emotional support to work through them.
    • Tip: Consider joining a support group or attending individual therapy if you need regular, ongoing emotional support in your life after divorce. It’s also helpful to have a go-to group of people (like close friends and family) who you know you can call and share your feelings with when times get tough.

  3. Socialize – Staying connected with the people who provide a positive influence in your life – like friends and loved ones – is another effective way to support your emotional wellbeing in life after divorce. So, rather than going into hermit mode, get out there and keep socializing.
    • Tip: Consider taking up a new hobby or restarting a previously cherished hobby or class. If you sign up for a class, you’ll have an automatic social date every week, and that can be something to look forward to and enjoy on a regular basis.

  4. Promote your children’s wellbeing – If you and your ex have children, then taking the time to support their needs (both during and after divorce) is also essential in life after divorce.
    • Tip: Help your children cope with divorce by remaining positive, supportive and honest.

  5. Be ready to adjust to a new financial situation – In addition to looking after your (and your children’s) physical and emotional wellbeing in life after divorce, it’s also important to look after your financial affairs. After all, it’s common to have the household income reduced in life after divorce – and adapting to the financial changes can be important to avoiding debt (and more stress) following a divorce.
    • Tip: Take a close look at your income versus expenses in life after divorce, and get yourself on a budget as you adjust. Also, get in the habit of checking your credit report, as this can immediately inform you if or when an ex may be defaulting on debt payments, racking up new charges in your name, etc.

  6. Know when it’s time to go back to court – While you may be ready to move on and start enjoying life after divorce, a bitter ex can make that difficult, especially if (s)he is trying to get back at you by, for instance, denying you support payments and/or parenting time. When exes fail to live up to any of the terms of the final divorce decree, it’s best to work with a lawyer and go back to court (where a judge can impose enforcement action and/or modify the terms of the decree).
    • Tip: Call your attorney ASAP if or when an ex withholds support payments or denies you your rightful parenting time. Avoid doing anything that would escalate the situation and/or potentially cause you more legal problems (like, for example, withholding parenting time because an ex has defaulted on child support and/or alimony payments).

Contact the Scottsdale Divorce Attorneys at the Law Office of Karen A. Schoenau

For experienced, effective representation in an Arizona divorce, contact the Scottsdale divorce attorney at the Law Office of Karen Schoenau. For nearly 30 years, we have been dedicated to providing people with vigorous advocacy while helping them bring their important family law issues to the best possible resolutions.

To learn more about your best options for resolving your family legal matters, schedule an initial consultation with one of our lawyers today by calling 480-209-1918 or by emailing us using the contact form on this page. When you meet with us, you will receive clear, straightforward legal advice so you are prepared to make the best decisions for you and your family moving forward.

From offices based in Scottsdale, we provide superior representation to clients throughout the metropolitan Scottsdale area, including in Scottsdale, Mesa, Surprise, Maricopa County, Pinal County, Gila County and throughout the state of Arizona.

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